My friend Roxanne saw a lawyer and filed for divorce! “We are two selfish people who never should have married. Greg no longer attends church and is more and more difficult to live with.”
Married ten years, there are no children. Roxanne is a Christian and knows from the Bible that God hates divorce.
I asked, “Do the problems you have with Greg cause you to spend more time on your knees, to draw closer to God and depend on Him more?” “Yes, definitely.” “I know a pastor with a sign on his wall that says, ‘For THIS I have Jesus.’ It’s to remind him that when life gets difficult, he’s to trust in Jesus. Our goal in life is not to strive for happiness. We’re to strive to be holy.
“Greg needs a godly wife. Why don’t you try praising God and thanking God that He is sufficient for your needs. Thank Him for what you DO have. He rewards us when we’re obedient.”
Roxanne began questioning herself: “Was I really walking with Jesus in my marriage? Could Greg see Jesus in me? According to 1 Corinthians 7:14, a husband is sanctified by his Christian wife. Was I behaving as a Christian wife? It’s easy for me to get selfish and critical, to focus on who I think He should be. He won’t love my Lord unless he can know Him! I have humbly asked God to forgive me. I’m turning myself around.”
Roxanne went shopping for a birthday present for Greg and became fast friends with the saleslady. They discovered they were both Christians and both in difficult marriages.
While they were visiting, Roxanne’s cell phone rang. It was the lawyer. She told him confidently, “It’s off! I’m going to work on my marriage instead. I believe God is in the business of taking two selfish people and changing them, one at a time.”
The saleslady smiled and said, “It DOES get better. Keep trusting Jesus.”
- Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us. Ephesians 3:20
- SONG: I LOVE THE LORD by Kathleen