The Word “Crap”

It has been a blessing for me, these past nine years, to serve as an online missionary with Global Media Outreach.  Carla, a 17-year-old from New York has been writing me for three weeks.  She’s had the usual teenage questions about life, love and God. Yet I’ve also noticed her frequent use of the word “crap.”

“Today I feel like crap.”  Or, “I don’t like it when the other kids talk crap about me.”

I decided that after three weeks it was time for me to comment:  “Dear Carla, Today I want to give you some constructive criticism. I’d like you to try not using the word “crap” because it is crude and unladylike. Instead, you might say, “I’m not feeling myself.”  Or, “I’m feeling lousy.”  Or, “I don’t like it when other kids say things about me that aren’t true.”  If you want to attract degenerate or immoral people, then use curse words and you will.

“I realize ‘crap’ may not be considered cursing by some.  But I have a young friend who became engaged to be married. Her fiancé used the word ‘crap’ in my presence. I told him I would appreciate it if he wouldn’t curse around me. He was taken aback and said, ‘I wouldn’t consider ‘crap’ a curse word.'”

“So, what does it mean?”

He became quiet. Then, “I never thought about that.”

“Carla, I have never again heard him repeat it, and they’ve been married over ten years. Nor have I ever heard my own family members talk like that.  There is really no need.  I’ve come to believe that when people curse it more often indicates they’re not too bright and probably don’t have a very large vocabulary.”

Carla wrote back: “Really? Wow! I never looked at it that way. You have taught me a lot and I appreciate it.  Carla”

How I love that girl and pray she’ll make wise decisions with her life.

  • The way of fools seems right to them, but the wise listen to advice.   Proverbs 12:15
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About Kathleen

God delights in working through His people as they submit to Him. Jesus said to go into all the world and preach the good news to everyone (Mark 16:15). No matter where we live on this planet, people are separated from God because of sin. We ALL need a Savior, and there’s only ONE. It brings me great joy to share Christ with the lost and lonely. Over the years I’ve learned a great deal while facilitating Bible studies. I’ve found myself on college and university campuses, the beach, the streets, the hospital, the jail and the juvenile facility for incarcerated teens sharing God’s message of love. I also serve as an online missionary with Global Media Outreach. I’ve seen countless lives transformed when people turn away from sin and turn to Jesus. The changes God makes are real and lasting. These are some of my experiences. NOTE: My stories have been altered, removing any and all identifying factors. This includes names and other particulars in order to protect confidentiality and anonymity.
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6 Responses to The Word “Crap”

  1. Amy says:

    Very powerful, Kathleen. I am so glad that you had to courage to speak truth to her and to that young many 10 years ago. God is helping me to be bolder too and to seek to please Him first and not worry about peoples’ reactions. Bless you for being a good example of this. Amy

    • Kathleen says:

      Thank you Amy. I was pleased with her positive reply. I do think it helped that I waited three weeks before confronting her. Young people today are confused about many things. They just need to be told.

  2. Susan says:

    I find most people, and I am including teenagers as they are people, respond well when treated kindly and with respect even with constructive criticism. Keep up the good work. You are changing so many lives 🙂

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