How Far Can We Go and Not Sin?

John from Kentucky sent an email via Global Media Outreach…

His question:  “My girlfriend and I are Christians and we want to wait until marriage for sex.  How far can we go and not sin?  We are both 16.”

“Dear John,  Wrong question!  You should not be asking how far into temptation you can go before it becomes sin.  Your question should be ‘How can we avoid temptation?’

“If you and your girlfriend are true followers of Jesus, then this is a good time to grow in your walk with Christ.  One way to avoid temptation is to avoid spending much time together alone.  Group activities are best.  It would be good for you to be involved in a church youth group and Bible study.  Youth group activities are fun and spiritually healthy.”

John wrote back, “Our church does not have a youth group.”
I wrote, “Go to a church that does.”
“My mom won’t let me go to a different church.”
“Ask your pastor if he can start a youth group in your church.”

John wrote a few days later:  “Pray for me. I have an appointment with the pastor on Monday.”
“That’s good news!  I’ll pray! Let me know what happens.”

John wrote after the meeting: “Hey! The pastor said we can have a youth group and a Bible study!  I’m stoked!”

Two weeks later John wrote, “I’m helping the pastor lead the Bible study. I love what I’m doing.”

A few weeks later John wrote again, “The youth group Bible study is going great and I’m learning a lot. Guess what! Our church is gonna start a youth orchestra. I’m gonna play violin!”

“That’s wonderful, John!  I’m glad to hear it.  How’s your girlfriend?”

John:  “I don’t know.  She goes to a different church.  I don’t see her anymore.”


“Thank You Lord, for directing our conversations.  Please keep John close to You and guide him in all his ways.”

  • And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one.     Matthew 6:13
  • But the cowardly, the unbelieving, the vile, the murderers, the sexually immoral, those who practice magic arts, the idolaters and all liars—they will be consigned to the fiery lake of burning sulfur.  This is the second death.”     Revelation 21:8
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This life is temporary. This life is short.  When this life is over, our bodies will die and become empty shells, but our souls will continue to live forever.  Where will the “real you” live?  Will you live for all eternity separated from God?  Or will you spend eternity in the presence of God in heaven?   Learn more so you can make your most important decision:  and

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About Kathleen

God delights in working through His people as they submit to Him. Jesus said to go into all the world and preach the good news to everyone (Mark 16:15). No matter where we live on this planet, people are separated from God because of sin. We ALL need a Savior, and there’s only ONE. It brings me great joy to share Christ with the lost and lonely. Over the years I’ve learned a great deal while facilitating Bible studies. I’ve found myself on college and university campuses, the beach, the streets, the hospital, the jail and the juvenile facility for incarcerated teens sharing God’s message of love. I also serve as an online missionary with Global Media Outreach. I’ve seen countless lives transformed when people turn away from sin and turn to Jesus. The changes God makes are real and lasting. These are some of my experiences. NOTE: My stories have been altered, removing any and all identifying factors. This includes names and other particulars in order to protect confidentiality and anonymity.
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12 Responses to How Far Can We Go and Not Sin?

  1. Helene says:

    Great positive advice – great follow through by John. PTL

  2. Karen says:

    I think there are a lot of good principles for adults from this conversation you had with John. First of all, that what we think will last forever often doesn’t. Secondly, never make decisions based solely on emotion. And lastly, when we invest in godly behavior and make God-honoring decisions, He will give us contentment and peace. Thanks for sharing this convo. May we all remember it’s wonderful lessons.

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