Can I Have Sex Now?

A 20-year-old man from a country in West Africa has been writing through GMO (Global Media Outreach). He is growing in the Lord, studying his Bible and involved in his church.

He recently wrote that he would like to have a sexual experience with a woman. “How can I abstain from sexual immoralities, while I am feeling the urge every second. Even though I have never had sex with anyone before, yet I’m feeling I’d like to do it now.  Is it a sin to have sex now?”

I responded, “Dear B, Your sexual desires are normal. But God created sex only for marriage between a husband and wife. It is difficult to wait, but this is God’s design and His plan for you. Obedience is not easy, but God rewards us when we obey Him.

Meanwhile, you must avoid anything that will lead you into temptation. Do not watch porn. Do not hang out with anyone who may tempt you to sin.

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Dear Father in Heaven,  You know B’s struggles. You know his heart yearns to serve You and obey You always. Please give him Your patience and endurance. Fill him with Your Holy Spirit so he will have Your peace, Your joy, and the self-control he needs at all times. I pray in the strong name of Jesus, our only hope,  Amen.

  • It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality.  1 Thessalonians 4:3
  • Wait for the LORD; be strong and take heart and wait for the LORD.    Psalm 27:14
  • Obey me, and I will be your God and you will be my people. Walk in all the ways I command you, that it may go well with you.   Jeremiah 7:23
  • But the cowardly, the unbelieving, the vile, the murderers, the sexually immoral, those who practice magic arts, the idolaters and all liars—they will be consigned to the fiery lake of burning sulfur. This is the second death.”    Revelation 21:8
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About Kathleen

God delights in working through His people as they submit to Him. Jesus said to go into all the world and preach the good news to everyone (Mark 16:15). No matter where we live on this planet, people are separated from God because of sin. We ALL need a Savior, and there’s only ONE. It brings me great joy to share Christ with the lost and lonely. Over the years I’ve learned a great deal while facilitating Bible studies. I’ve found myself on college and university campuses, the beach, the streets, the hospital, the jail and the juvenile facility for incarcerated teens sharing God’s message of love. I also serve as an online missionary with Global Media Outreach. I’ve seen countless lives transformed when people turn away from sin and turn to Jesus. The changes God makes are real and lasting. These are some of my experiences. NOTE: My stories have been altered, removing any and all identifying factors. This includes names and other particulars in order to protect confidentiality and anonymity.
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7 Responses to Can I Have Sex Now?

  1. Stuart says:

    Good advice for this young man, great references and powerful verses.

    So thankful for your involvement with the youth and young adults.

  2. Kathleen says:

    Thank you, Katt. God has given us His guidelines. He rewards those who are obedient.

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