Christian Courtship 2018

There is a new way of dating that’s certainly different from what I experienced as a young person.  Today it’s called Christian courtship.  This is what I’m learning from students who attend a nearby Christian university.

Christian kids in high school typically hang out in Christian youth groups. Together they may attend sporting events, go bowling, roller skating, ice skating or hiking. They’ll study the Bible together, pray together, have song fests and do Christian ministry outreach together.   They may go surfing or on camping adventures, but always with the group advisors as chaperones and leaders.

This continues into the university life.  There are mostly group activities.  There is no physical contact between couples, beyond holding hands. Lingering in a car is inappropriate.

Alex and Stephanie have known each other for several years through Christian friends and group activities.  Although both sophomores, Alex lives in the dorm,  while Stephanie lives at home, locally.   Both are serious students and doing well academically.  They are both committed to Jesus Christ.  The university is sponsoring a six-week mission trip to an African country this summer.  Alex plans to go.   Similarly, Stephanie is planning a mission trip to another country.

Recently Alex began dating Stephanie.  But after two dates, she explained that if they were to continue to date,  he must first talk with her father.  Is Alex serious about courting Stephanie?  Courtship is considered the precursor to engagement and then marriage. The first kiss is reserved for the wedding day.

Thus far Alex is going along with it.  Today he made an appointment to meet with her dad—he was both nervous and excited!   Incidentally, this university seems to produce many young marriages—marriages that last.


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About Kathleen

God delights in working through His people as they submit to Him. Jesus said to go into all the world and preach the good news to everyone (Mark 16:15). No matter where we live on this planet, people are separated from God because of sin. We ALL need a Savior, and there’s only ONE. It brings me great joy to share Christ with the lost and lonely. Over the years I’ve learned a great deal while facilitating Bible studies. I’ve found myself on college and university campuses, the beach, the streets, the hospital, the jail and the juvenile facility for incarcerated teens sharing God’s message of love. I also serve as an online missionary with Global Media Outreach. I’ve seen countless lives transformed when people turn away from sin and turn to Jesus. The changes God makes are real and lasting. These are some of my experiences. NOTE: My stories have been altered, removing any and all identifying factors. This includes names and other particulars in order to protect confidentiality and anonymity.
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1 Response to Christian Courtship 2018

  1. I love that you wrote about this, Kathleen, because there are a lot of people who have questions about it! Great job!

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