Cohabitating with Girlfriend

A friend asked me to write a letter to her 24-year-old son who was cohabitating with his girlfriend.  “Tell him he’s living in sin—he won’t listen to me!”

Coincidentally, I wanted to write him anyway!  Ron and I had recently talked and he’d expressed his disappointment in organized religion.  He was restless, frustrated and searching for meaning to life.

I wrote, “Ron, you’ve been on my mind ever since we talked.  Is it because I believe that you and your girlfriend are living in sin?  No.  In fact, your lifestyle is no different from many your age.  According to the Bible,  we are all sinners.

“I’m concerned that you are unhappy and frustrated with life.  Jesus said, ‘I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.’  You don’t seem to recognize your need for a personal relationship with Jesus Christ.

“I’m not talking about church here.  I believe someday you will turn to Jesus Christ.  You will receive His forgiveness and will want to surrender your life to Him.  You will then receive the Holy Spirit who will come to live within.  God will begin to speak to your heart and show you how He wants you to live.  He’ll also give you the power and the desire to do His will.  That is when you will begin to experience the wonderful peace and contentment  you are seeking…”

What a surprise when six weeks later we received an invitation to their wedding!  A few weeks later we received a note from his bride:  “I don’t want you to think we decided to marry because of your letter.  But I can’t say it was not the reason either.  Thank you.”

Ron and his wife became followers of Jesus.  Today they are raising their four children in the Lord.  They teach Sunday school and are leaders in their church.

  • I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.      John 10:10
  • For of this you can be sure:  No immoral, impure or greedy person—such a person is an idolater—has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God.    Ephesians 5:5


This life is temporary. This life is short.  When this life is over, our bodies will die and become empty shells, but our souls will continue to live forever.  Where will the “real you” live?  Will you live for all eternity separated from God?  Or will you spend eternity in the presence of God in heaven?   Learn more so you can make your most important decision:

About Kathleen

God delights in working through His people as they submit to Him. Jesus said to go into all the world and preach the good news to everyone (Mark 16:15). No matter where we live on this planet, people are separated from God because of sin. We ALL need a Savior, and there’s only ONE. It brings me great joy to share Christ with the lost and lonely. Over the years I’ve learned a great deal while facilitating Bible studies. I’ve found myself on college and university campuses, the beach, the streets, the hospital, the jail and the juvenile facility for incarcerated teens sharing God’s message of love. I also serve as an online missionary with Global Media Outreach. I’ve seen countless lives transformed when people turn away from sin and turn to Jesus. The changes God makes are real and lasting. These are some of my experiences. NOTE: My stories have been altered, removing any and all identifying factors. This includes names and other particulars in order to protect confidentiality and anonymity.
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3 Responses to Cohabitating with Girlfriend

  1. Liana says:

    Kathleen, how precious the fragrance you shared that became a bunch of beautiful roses in the Kingdom of God.

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