Courtship Then Marriage

I know a tall, handsome, athletic young man who graduated from high school with honors.  He has a girlfriend — but they don’t date!

Oops! Excuse me!  I’m told she’s NOT his girlfriend!  They just like each other.

According to their strong Christian beliefs, they don’t date and they don’t kiss — until they are ready to consider courtship — and then marriage!

So what do they do?  They hang out with friends and family!  They’re involved in group activities:  games, sports, church activities, hiking, swimming, making pizza together, outings with their friends and parents.

His mother explains that this idea, according to her son,  is for them to get to know one another, their families and their friends, to worship together, pray together, study God’s Word together, share Christ with others together and then someday if they continue to like each other enough, they will begin their courtship and then marry.

The few I’ve known to practice this type of premarital friendship seem to marry young,  and marry for life.  This young man dreams of completing college and going on to medical school.  His parents believe he will do it.  I do as well.

  • Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good.  Be devoted to one another in love.  Honor one another above yourselves.     Romans 12:9-10
  • What is Love?  I appreciate this definition:  “Love is a commitment of the will to the true good of another person,” from J. Budziszewski in his book,  How To Stay Christian In College.
  • An excellent article on courtship vs. dating:
    [This life is temporary. This life is short.  When this life is over, our bodies will die and become empty shells, but our souls will continue to live forever.  Where will the “real you” live?  Will you live for all eternity separated from God?  Or will you spend eternity in the presence of God in heaven?   Learn more so you can make your most important decision:  and

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About Kathleen

God delights in working through His people as they submit to Him. Jesus said to go into all the world and preach the good news to everyone (Mark 16:15). No matter where we live on this planet, people are separated from God because of sin. We ALL need a Savior, and there’s only ONE. It brings me great joy to share Christ with the lost and lonely. Over the years I’ve learned a great deal while facilitating Bible studies. I’ve found myself on college and university campuses, the beach, the streets, the hospital, the jail and the juvenile facility for incarcerated teens sharing God’s message of love. I also serve as an online missionary with Global Media Outreach. I’ve seen countless lives transformed when people turn away from sin and turn to Jesus. The changes God makes are real and lasting. These are some of my experiences. NOTE: My stories have been altered, removing any and all identifying factors. This includes names and other particulars in order to protect confidentiality and anonymity.
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4 Responses to Courtship Then Marriage

  1. Frank King says:

    I believe the kind of relationship you describe between this young man and woman is extremely rare. Their individual commitment to Christ and their respect for each other’s commitment to Christ is commendable.

  2. Kristi says:

    Amen Sister Kathleen!

    Marriage is between one man and one woman as our true GOD who art in Heaven created!!

    Love Always, Kristi

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