As an online missionary for Global Media Outreach, I’ve been mentoring 20-year-old Mary from the Philippines for several months. Recently, she admitted something new: “Even though I’m a Christian, I need to tell you that I’m bisexual. I’ve never had a sexual relationship with a male or female, but I’m attracted to both men and women. What should I do?”
I prayerfully responded, “You say you are bisexual. That means you are both. That means it should not be too difficult for you to eliminate the type of relationship that offends God and cling to the one that honors God.
“In Romans 1:21-28 we read that God considers it sin when two people of the same sex engage in sexual activity. Sex is only to be expressed between a man and a woman who are married to each other. That is the way God designed it.
“The Bible tells us to wait until marriage for sex. The Bible has not changed. God has not changed. Read Revelation 21: 8 and see what happens to those who are sexually immoral.
“Mary, you are a follower of Jesus. That means you have received the Holy Spirit and all the fruit of the Spirit as found in Galatians 5:22-23: ‘But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.’ You have received ALL of that, not some of it. That even means you have self-control–you just need to exercise it!
“God will help you do the right thing. Obedience to God is not always easy. But God rewards us when we obey. You have started down the correct path by asking for help. This is a good beginning. You may have to distance yourself from any girlfriend you find yourself attracted to.
“Please be careful what movies you watch. Much is not good and can cause unnecessary sexual arousal and confusion. Do not look at any type of pornography. Porn is addicting, progressive and destructive. It can also lead to sexual confusion.
“In 1 Corinthians 6: 9-11 it says, ‘Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.’
“What this means Mary, is that even 2000 years ago when these words were penned, it didn’t matter which sins people were involved in. When they surrendered their lives to Jesus Christ they changed. The Holy Spirit began to indwell them and gave them the desire to change and also the power to change. He is still doing that today.
“Godlife.com has a specialty group of online volunteers who are experienced in answering questions about same sex attractions. Please let me know if you would like to share your struggles with one of them and I will gladly put you in touch with someone. There are also many websites where you can read testimonies of former homosexuals. Go to http://ex-gaytruth.com/ex-gay-testimonies/ .”
I closed by writing out a prayer for Mary: “… fill her anew with Your Holy Spirit so she will have the power to do the right thing. Give her Your patience to wait until You provide a godly man for her, so they can honor You with their lives together. I pray in the strong name of Jesus, Amen.”
- But the cowardly, the unbelieving, the vile, the murderers, the sexually immoral, those who practice magic arts, the idolaters and all liars—they will be consigned to the fiery lake of burning sulfur. This is the second death. Revelation 21:8
- For more information on Global Media Outreach: http://www.globalmediaoutreach.com/ or, www.godlife.com
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