In a Relationship

I received an email from 22-year-old John in Kenya, via Global Media Outreach, for which I am an online missionary.

“I am in a relationship and I need advice on how we can live happily, loving each other without limitations.”

“Dear John,  I’m not sure what you mean by “in a relationship.”  Are you living together?  Sleeping together?  Unfortunately, if you are not married, then there are many limitations. You see, sexual activity is forbidden by God—until after marriage.

“Here’s another important question:  Have both of you given your lives to Jesus Christ?  The Bible tells us not to be yoked with an unbeliever.  If one of you is a follower of Jesus and the other one is not, this is not good.

“If you are both Christ followers, then are you praying together? Are you reading and studying the Bible together? This is important.  The Bible says ‘Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they shall be satisfied.’ That is your number one goal.

“Perhaps you and your girlfriend would enjoy learning more about God and the Bible together.  Go to: where you will find great resources for Christians at every stage of growth.

“John, please understand this:  God loves you and your girlfriend. He wants what’s best for both of you.  Please write back and let me know if you have further questions or want prayer. I am here to help.”

Unfortunately, that was the last I heard from John.

  • Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness,  for they shall be satisfied.   Matthew 5:6
  • But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people.            Ephesians 5:3
  • Do not be yoked together with unbelievers.     2 Corinthians 6:14
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  • SEVEN TIMES A DAYBy Kathleen taken from Ps. 119 & 2 Thess. 3:6;

    This life is temporary.  This life is short.  When this life is over, our bodies will die and become empty shells, but our souls will continue to live forever.  Where will the “real you” live?  Will you live for all eternity separated from God?  Or will you spend eternity in the presence of God in heaven?   Learn more so you can make your most important decision:  and

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About Kathleen

God delights in working through His people as they submit to Him. Jesus said to go into all the world and preach the good news to everyone (Mark 16:15). No matter where we live on this planet, people are separated from God because of sin. We ALL need a Savior, and there’s only ONE. It brings me great joy to share Christ with the lost and lonely. Over the years I’ve learned a great deal while facilitating Bible studies. I’ve found myself on college and university campuses, the beach, the streets, the hospital, the jail and the juvenile facility for incarcerated teens sharing God’s message of love. I also serve as an online missionary with Global Media Outreach. I’ve seen countless lives transformed when people turn away from sin and turn to Jesus. The changes God makes are real and lasting. These are some of my experiences. NOTE: My stories have been altered, removing any and all identifying factors. This includes names and other particulars in order to protect confidentiality and anonymity.
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6 Responses to In a Relationship

  1. Florence Warwar says:

    If our young people (or those any age) could realize that God had a plan when He told us to be equally yoked in the Lord and to wait for marriage for the physical relationship, they would have more peace and happiness. Many people do not hold to God’s standards. He knew that we would be much happier in our marriage relationship if we follow His rules. People today don’t believe it but when you see a couple that are equally yoked in the Lord, have God as their guide in all things, love each other more than themselves, you will find the kind of true happiness and fulfillment that God intended for all. Thanks for sharing this story.

    • Kathleen says:

      Thank you, Florence. I agree with you. In recent years it has become culturally acceptable to cohabit with a “fiance.” This is because the knowledge of God’s Word is fading. Yet God has not changed. God’s Word has not changed. I’m reminded of Hosea 4:6 “My people are destroyed from lack of knowledge. Because you have rejected knowledge, I also reject you as my priests; because you have ignored the law of your God, I also will ignore your children.”
      I believe judgment is coming.

  2. Ann says:

    This shows that so many people want to ask for an answer, but when the answer is not to their liking, they allow the devil to sway them into just turning away from the truth and continuing down the same sinful path in life. I pray that even though you did not hear back from this student, that you planted a seed in his mind and he will remember it and his life will turn back to the Lord. I just now read your verse above, Hosea 4:6. How sad to be rejected by our God.

    • Kathleen says:

      Thank you, Ann! You are so right! People do ask questions, but when they don’t like the answer, they do what they want anyway. That is…those who are not listening to the voice of God.

  3. kfrank07 says:

    Only the truth can make us free, but some–actually many–have trouble receiving the truth when it goes against their desires or intentions.

    • Kathleen says:

      Absolutely. This is where the testing of our faith comes in. It is not easy to be obedient, but God blesses us when we are. Thank you for your comment.

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