Cohabit or Marry?

Many couples today prefer to cohabit rather than marry. Yet there are some who want to obey God and do what is right.

One young man said, “If I don’t think of a girl as a girlfriend, then I’m not tempted to kiss her.”  When he was 24 he proposed to his best friend of over a year and they had never kissed. He said they both wanted to honor God with their lives.  They believed kissing would create more temptation than they wanted before marriage.

Another young couple became engaged.  Six weeks later they could no longer kiss—they couldn’t handle it!  They decided that until the wedding they would limit their affection to a peck on the cheek and a hug.

A third young couple had been promiscuous for years and then they found Jesus.  Later they found each other.  They dated for two years before marrying.  During that time he never touched her. He never held her hand or put his arm around her. Why?  They both knew where touch would lead. They were committed to honoring God with their lives.

The three couples above have been married over ten years, are living happy and productive lives, raising up godly children and serving a mighty God.

Is it easy to obey God?  No.  Yet there are young couples we don’t hear much about who desire to maintain a God-honoring courtship.  When we obey God then He blesses.   Believe it.

  •  You were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.                                    1 Corinthians 6:20
  • Flee from sexual immorality.   1 Corinthians 6:18
  •  And this is love: that we walk in obedience to his commands. As you have heard from the beginning, his command is that you walk in love.     2 John 1:6


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About Kathleen

God delights in working through His people as they submit to Him. Jesus said to go into all the world and preach the good news to everyone (Mark 16:15). No matter where we live on this planet, people are separated from God because of sin. We ALL need a Savior, and there’s only ONE. It brings me great joy to share Christ with the lost and lonely. Over the years I’ve learned a great deal while facilitating Bible studies. I’ve found myself on college and university campuses, the beach, the streets, the hospital, the jail and the juvenile facility for incarcerated teens sharing God’s message of love. I also serve as an online missionary with Global Media Outreach. I’ve seen countless lives transformed when people turn away from sin and turn to Jesus. The changes God makes are real and lasting. These are some of my experiences. NOTE: My stories have been altered, removing any and all identifying factors. This includes names and other particulars in order to protect confidentiality and anonymity.
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8 Responses to Cohabit or Marry?

  1. Pauline says:

    Many thanks, Kathleen. This is a subject many young people need to hear.
    Keep up the good work and the Lord will continue to bless all of us who read you.

  2. Liana says:

    So beautiful Kathleen, that there are still young ones/young at heart who want to honour God completely.

    • Kathleen says:

      Thank you. I so agree. We must remember that Jesus said there is a wide road with many people on it but it leads to destruction. He said to take the narrow road that leads to life, but only a few find it. (Matthew 7:13-14)

  3. Tiffany says:

    Wow, I was so on the wrong side of this as a youth. I made big mistakes… more than once and the consequences followed me into marriage. I wish someone had talked to me… I wish I would have listened to those who did. Thank you for sharing this

  4. MEL THOMPSON says:

    1 Thessalonians 4:3 in the Good News Translation (GNT) says “God wants you to be holy and completely free from sexual immorality.” God isn’t against SEX, but SEX outside of marriage is wrong, no exceptions! And as you said, “obeying God isn’t easy,” especially when we live in a fallen world and we sometimes find ourselves struggling with the issues we face; how peer pressure affects our attitude. Our actions are in direct correspondence to our attitudes. I so appreciate your words and getting right down to the issue in question. THANKS, Kathleen!

  5. Kristi Ann says:

    Jesus-Yeshua Christ said: “It is better to marry than to burn.”

    Love 💕 Always and Shalom ( Peace ), YSIC \o/


  6. Kathleen says:

    Thank you, Kristi Ann, for your appropriate verse! Indeed, it IS better to marry than to burn!

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