How Can I Make Friends?

As an online missionary for Global Media Outreach, I’ve been mentoring Susan in the Middle East, for about three years.  She’s now a university freshman.  She wrote, “I am shy and handicapped in making friendships. How exactly can I make friends?”

I prayerfully responded, “Jesus wants us to love one another. Reaching out in friendship is a good beginning.  If we want friends, we must be friendly.

“Begin by standing straight and tall, don’t slouch. Smile and be confident.  Remember that you now have the Holy Spirit living in you. Our confidence comes from God.

“Smile. Look people in the eye when you talk.  Sometimes a person will glance away when you look at them. Don’t be afraid of that. Keep smiling.  That person is either very shy, or considers you a threat for some reason.  Most of the time I believe it’s because they are shy.

“Often it’s appropriate to offer a handshake. Your handshake should be firm, but not tight.  Smile.  Ask people about themselves, then listen with interest. Be truly interested in them. If you see a need, offer to help–and then follow through with a smile.”

A few days later Susan wrote, “I found a chance to practice what you taught me. It works!!!!!  I started talking to a girl on the bus by asking her about herself.  We were talking the whole time til she got off.  This is progress! I’m so happy. I remembered to smile and I’m still smiling. Thank you!”

  • A new command I give you: Love one another.  As I have loved you, so you must love one another.  By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.   John 13:34-35
  • And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. Colossians 3:14
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About Kathleen

God delights in working through His people as they submit to Him. Jesus said to go into all the world and preach the good news to everyone (Mark 16:15). No matter where we live on this planet, people are separated from God because of sin. We ALL need a Savior, and there’s only ONE. It brings me great joy to share Christ with the lost and lonely. Over the years I’ve learned a great deal while facilitating Bible studies. I’ve found myself on college and university campuses, the beach, the streets, the hospital, the jail and the juvenile facility for incarcerated teens sharing God’s message of love. I also serve as an online missionary with Global Media Outreach. I’ve seen countless lives transformed when people turn away from sin and turn to Jesus. The changes God makes are real and lasting. These are some of my experiences. NOTE: My stories have been altered, removing any and all identifying factors. This includes names and other particulars in order to protect confidentiality and anonymity.
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7 Responses to How Can I Make Friends?

  1. Liana says:

    A beautiful friend offering beautiful advice.

  2. Matthew C says:

    That’s great advice, nothing complicated, just simple and easy to follow. The only thing I would add is to gently advise her not to say anymore in that she is shy and handicapped in making friends. There is power in what we say, whether on the negative side or the positive side.

  3. Amanda says:

    I used to be so shy when I was younger! This is good advice for that young lady. The more she practices your suggestions, the easier it will be to be approachable and friendly to others!

  4. Frank King says:

    Good, simple and practical advice. As you said, “If we want friends, we must be friendly.” That’s a simple truth but we know it’s still hard for some people to put into practice.

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