Pray for Your Child’s Future Spouse

I believe it’s important to pray for our children’s future spouses. When our children were six and four,  I began keeping a prayer journal.

In the beginning of the journal I had a page entitled: “My heart’s deepest desires for my husband.”  I had a similar page for both of our children.  There were even separate pages for the kids’ future spouses!  The requests I listed were similar but also different, because the kids are different.

When our daughter was 22 she told me she had met “the one.”  I brought out my old prayer journal and we looked at the list of prayer requests for her future husband. God had answered each one, over and above what I’d asked.  Indeed, he was the one.  The same thing happened with our son.  How faithful is our God!

One thing on the list that I wanted for both our children and their mates, was that God would give them the gift of hospitality—that God would place in their hearts a desire to open their homes for God’s use.

Even though our daughter and her husband have a large family, they still host a weekly couple’s Bible study in their home. They host frequent dinners for friends and missionaries.

Likewise, our son and his wife do the same! Busy young people opening their homes for the Lord and modeling hospitality for their children.

Thank You, God, for what You are doing.  I am amazed that You continue to answer my prayers from that old prayer journal.  Thank You for Your faithfulness.

  •  The one who calls you is faithful, and he will do it.   1 Thessalonians 5:24
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About Kathleen

God delights in working through His people as they submit to Him. Jesus said to go into all the world and preach the good news to everyone (Mark 16:15). No matter where we live on this planet, people are separated from God because of sin. We ALL need a Savior, and there’s only ONE. It brings me great joy to share Christ with the lost and lonely. Over the years I’ve learned a great deal while facilitating Bible studies. I’ve found myself on college and university campuses, the beach, the streets, the hospital, the jail and the juvenile facility for incarcerated teens sharing God’s message of love. I also serve as an online missionary with Global Media Outreach. I’ve seen countless lives transformed when people turn away from sin and turn to Jesus. The changes God makes are real and lasting. These are some of my experiences. NOTE: My stories have been altered, removing any and all identifying factors. This includes names and other particulars in order to protect confidentiality and anonymity.
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17 Responses to Pray for Your Child’s Future Spouse

  1. Sheila says:

    It’s so neat how you have seen your requests realized. Pray that I will be faithful in praying for my kids’ future spouses.

    • Kathleen says:

      More than happy to, Sheila! Lord God, I lift up Sheila and ask that You would help her to be faithful in praying for her children’s future spouses. Give her great wisdom as she models Christ in their home. Guide and direct her in her parenting. I pray in the strong name of Jesus, Amen.

  2. Debbie says:

    Aahhh… a beautiful reminder of why keeping journals grows our faith. We can recognize specific answers to prayer as God breathes life into those words written on paper.

  3. David says:

    Hi Kathleen, God has blessed you with great wisdom, and you have exercised it well. Dave.

  4. ronald says:

    wow. really beautiful. I really love the idea. I don’t have kids yet but what I do is to pray for them already. but I had not thought of praying for them in that area. so thank you making me aware. really lovely.

  5. MEL THOMPSON says:

    Great ideas, Kathleen! Standing on God’s PROMISES isn’t always an easy task, and raising children sometimes increases the difficulties and doubts. That said, God’s word doesn’t tell us to SIT but STAND, That’s an action word. And as you pointed out with your own experience, God rewards our faithfulness.

  6. I love the idea of actually writing down the prayers for what you are asking for your children. How great to look back over your journal to see how God answered your prayer for them. Thanks for sharing this!

    • Kathleen says:

      Thank you, Karen! Writing down our prayer requests is beneficial in many ways. Sometimes when we feel discouraged in our prayer life, we need only to open our prayer journal and see how God has answered our past prayers. That alone blesses us!

  7. Frank King says:

    Kathleen, that is a great testimony of God’s faithfulness to answer our prayers. My wife and I have six children. I pray for them most days. I pray for the spouses of those who are married. But I have not been praying about the future spouses of the ones that are not yet married. After reading your post, I will going forward.

  8. I have been praying for my children’s spouses since they were born. My eldest (24 y.o.) finally starting dating last year and is now in engagement mode! My future daughter-in-law is absolutely a charming young lady, but most important, she truly loves the Lord! My middle child (21 y.o.) is still wrapped up in his artistic endeavors. He knows God has his future wife already picked out and is just waiting patiently to spot her! 😉 My youngest and last child (16 y.o.) is the princess. She already has a “boy-friend” but is also confident that God will confirm her lifelong mate…after she finishes college, OF COURSE! 🙂 Anyway, your post reminded me of my very own experience in finding my God-elected spouse. My mom was obviously praying for her as well. 27 years ago, while I was still a bachelor living alone, she visited me and told me she had made a special prayer over one of my pillows. She prayed that the woman who was to lay her head on that pillow would be the suitable helper God had designed for me. Did it work? You bet!! I just celebrated my 25th anniversary with her last September!

  9. Joy says:

    Hi Kathleen,

    I am neither married nor do I have children, but this is such a wonderful testament to how God listens to our prayers. I am so amazed that you actually kept a journal with the requests and I’m starting to think I should pick up my own journal. I also love what you said about hospitality and how your children have fulfilled this aspect of your prayer. God really works in our hearts and this gives me hope for my future as well!

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