I’ve known my young friend “Jacqui” since before her marriage. She has a loving husband who is a devoted father to their children. Jacqui is also very beautiful. She recently received a substantial inheritance, but she’s unhappy. She claims she no longer loves her husband and wants a divorce. She’s never been willing to discuss spiritual things. I decided to write a letter:
Dear Jacqui, I was saddened to learn that you were considering divorce. I want to tell you about another friend who divorced her first husband after having two children. She married again and had two more children. Several times I’ve heard her say, “Divorce was not the answer! I have just as many problems with my second husband as I did with my first! Moreover, I now have two sets of kids, and my first husband is still in my life because we share our children.”
People say children are resilient: “They’ll adjust. Besides, today there are so many kids from broken homes they won’t feel they are missing out.”
It’s not true. Kids are resilient on the outside. They adjust on the outside. But their hearts will yearn for their parents to be together again. Your children will observe friends from intact families and they will know they are missing out.
We’ve heard that a child’s security comes from knowing their parents love them. That’s only partly true. A child’s real security comes in knowing their parents love each other.
What is love? I appreciated author J. Budziszewski’s definition: “Love is a commitment of the will to the true good of another person.” And I will add: Love does not always depend on feelings. Love is a choice. Love is something you do.
I too was once tempted to escape from marriage and enjoy freedom…and a new life. But it was my faith in Christ that kept me obedient. I’m so glad now that I WAS obedient. Looking back, those times I thought would never get better, are gone. God was faithful to my obedience. He’ll be faithful to yours, as well.
This life is short. This life has a purpose. This life is a test and I want to pass the test. I want my kids to pass the test. This life may be short, but Jacqui, eternity is forever.
We each have a soul and that soul is the life inside our body. Once our body dies our soul will continue to live. The most important question is: Where will your soul live? Many believe that if they are good they will go to heaven.
Being good or bad has nothing to do with it. Because nobody is good enough for heaven. We all need a Savior to save us from eternal separation from God. We all need a Savior and there is only ONE.
There are two kinds of people: those who will be saved in the next life and those who will not. But as far as I know, I don’t believe you’ve ever come to know the Lord Jesus, nor the joy, peace and purpose that only He can provide.
There WILL be a time when you wake up and realize you’ve made some serious mistakes and you need God in your life. Don’t wait, Jacqui.
When we come to the end of our lives, the only question that matters to God is, “What did you do with Jesus?” When you are ready to investigate the God life, you might check out this site: www.godlife.com
I love you! Kathleen
- For “I hate divorce,” says the Lord, the God of Israel. Malachi 2:16 NASB
- I LOVE THE LORD – By Kathleen
This life is temporary. This life is short. When this life is over, our bodies will die and become empty shells, but our souls will continue to live forever. Where will the “real you” live? Will you live for all eternity separated from God? Or will you spend eternity in the presence of God in heaven? Learn more so you can make your most important decision: http://www.godlife.com/gospel/ and http://www.godlife.com/en/about-christianity
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