Preschoolers Quarreling

My preschoolers would sometimes get into quarrels and spats.

Typically, I’d say, “Okay! I think we need to talk with Jesus about this.”  I’d gather them together and go to prayer.

Afterward, I’d require the guilty person do two things:
1.  Apologize to the person he/she hurt.
2.  Ask forgiveness from the person he/she hurt.
The offended person needed to learn to say, “I forgive you.”
I did the same thing whether they were playing alone or had friends over.

I believe this in important in training children. Most people today will apologize, but will not ask for forgiveness. It has become unfamiliar in our culture. Yet I wanted my children to be comfortable doing this because God wants us to be a forgiving people. He wants us to learn to seek forgiveness. It’s the healthy thing to do.

I had been working on memorizing 2 Corinthians 10:5 “We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.”

Whatever the problem, I wanted to focus on bringing my thoughts captive to the obedience of Christ. I wanted my children to learn to do the same.

  • Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.    Proverbs 22:6


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God delights in working through His people as they submit to Him. Jesus said to go into all the world and preach the good news to everyone (Mark 16:15). No matter where we live on this planet, people are separated from God because of sin. We ALL need a Savior, and there’s only ONE. It brings me great joy to share Christ with the lost and lonely. Over the years I’ve learned a great deal while facilitating Bible studies. I’ve found myself on college and university campuses, the beach, the streets, the hospital, the jail and the juvenile facility for incarcerated teens sharing God’s message of love. I also serve as an online missionary with Global Media Outreach. I’ve seen countless lives transformed when people turn away from sin and turn to Jesus. The changes God makes are real and lasting. These are some of my experiences. NOTE: My stories have been altered, removing any and all identifying factors. This includes names and other particulars in order to protect confidentiality and anonymity.
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7 Responses to Preschoolers Quarreling

  1. Helene says:

    It is a very hard thing for me to bring my thoughts captive to the obedience to Christ – a constant struggle.

    • Kathleen says:

      I agree, it is NOT easy! There are so many daily distractions that pull at us. Sometimes we have to take one moment at a time and refocus.

  2. Kaylene says:

    We too have trained and are still training our children to ask forgiveness rather than just say “sorry.” The response “I forgive you” is so beautiful to watch as they grow in character and prayer life. These steps carry more sincerity authenticity. Thank you for this great post!

  3. Liana says:

    Oh for more mothers like you Kathleen, what a different next generation we’d have.

  4. Great points Kathleen! I think grown-ups could use this direction as well.

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