Alabama, a 15-year-old girl in an African country wrote via http://www.globalmediaoutreach.com/. “Dear Kathleen, ‘Please tell me: Is this sin?’
“There is this white guy in my class. I admire him so much that each time I look at him, I wish he felt the same way about me. I wonder if we are made for each other. I even had a dream about him. Is it wrong in front of God to feel something real for him? I keep asking myself if liking him so much is wrong. Please help me with an answer for this.”
“Dear Alabama, You are attracted to a guy. This is normal. These temptations will likely occur your entire life. As long as there are good-looking, desirable guys around, there will be temptation. Yet as Christians, we have boundaries. We also have the Holy Spirit who provides us with wisdom and self-control.
“If this guy does feel the same way toward you as you do toward him, it could lead to trouble at your young age. As a follower of Jesus, you will want to wait until marriage before having any sexual contact with a guy. This is difficult, especially today when it seems everyone is having sex outside marriage; it’s even talked about on TV! Yes, many people today believe premarital sex is okay. It is not.
“Read Revelation 21: 8 and you can see what the Bible says about sexual immorality. The Bible has not changed. God has not changed. Someday after you marry, you may still see other guys you are attracted to. What will you do then?
“You will choose NOT to spend any more time with them than necessary. The more time you spend with someone you are attracted to, the more difficult it will be not to sin.
“My suggestion for you is to give thanks to God that He has created you normally. Thank God that you can trust Him to put a godly man into your life someday, someone whom you will marry and together will serve God.”
Then I wrote out this prayer for Alabama: “Lord God, I lift up my friend Alabama before Your throne of grace. You know her heart yearns to do right. She wants to please You with her life. Please give her great wisdom. Give her Your self-control to do the right thing. Give her Your patience to wait for the right godly young man to marry someday. Meanwhile, help her draw closer to You. Help her get involved in a Christian youth group or small group Bible study where young people can pray together and be accountable to one another. I thank You, in advance, for what You are going to do in Alabama’s life. I pray in the precious name of Jesus, Amen.”
“Alabama, I have a two websites you might find helpful: http://www.everystudent.com and http://www.412teens.org Check them out and let me know what you think. ~ Kathleen”
Alabama wrote back: “OK, I understand. I will pray to God to help me overcome this temptation and do the right thing. I like the websites you sent. They are cool.”
- But the cowardly, the unbelieving, the vile, the murderers, the sexually immoral, those who practice magic arts, the idolaters and all liars—they will be consigned to the fiery lake of burning sulfur. This is the second death. Revelation 21:8